It’s happened to all of us. You wake up one day, stub your toe, and the entire day is one bad experience after another. Every time you think you have beaten back negative thoughts, someone comes along and just pisses you off. Or worse. You discover your own neglect has caused you more problems and more time doing something you don’t enjoy.
You know, it’s HARD in our everyday lives to avoid negativity. To quote the Beatles, “I heard the news today, oh boy….” CNN (Constantly Negative News) bombards us with terrible, horrible, news stories every day. Even the ‘good’ stories are usually based on someone surviving a horrible event.
Then, to top it off, we beat the hell out of ourselves with internal dialog that replays all the bad things we’ve ever been told about us. “You suck.” Or, “You’re dreaming if you think you can do that.” Or even harsher words from arguments and fights.
I have a few solutions I’ve gleaned from amazing speakers and motivators.
- Turn off the news. If something is REALLY important in the world, you’ll hear about it. Trust me.
- Start the day off with a positive thought, or turn a negative into a positive. “I’m getting a haircut today, which will make me look better.” Or, “I get to go to work and be paid when many people are unemployed.”
- Read, watch, or listen to something funny. It’s been said a laugh can boost your immune system for 24 hours, while anger and complaining can reduce it for hours.
- Find something inspirational to read, watch or listen to. It could be something from your church, something from a friend, or a video like this one of Les Brown.
- End each day by looking in the mirror and saying, out loud, what you feel good about doing or accomplishing.
- Surround yourself with positive minded people and slowly remove yourself from negative minded people.
- Climb into a virtual ZORB and protect your thoughts from others when you are entering the presence of people you know will be negative.
If you had a bad day, don’t let it weigh you down. There is another day ahead. Give it a chance to begin anew. Reflect briefly on what you’d like to happen for your new day when you wake in the morning.
All days aren’t perfect, but beating yourself up won’t help anything at all.
And I don’t like people that beat up and pick on my friends.
MAN! Have you ever had one of those days where everyone around you was trying to rain on your parade? Or a day where tempers in the office made the air dense with negativity and caused a chain reaction of constant bitch sessions? Have you tried dreaming of winning a million dollars only to have someone say, “That would be the worst thing in the world to win a million dollars! The government would take half and everyone would be wanting a hand-out.”
What’s a positive minded person to do?
If you don’t have access to deflector shields from Star Trek, a cone of silence from Get Smart, or simply a copper pyramid to place over your head to block all these negative thoughts and words, simply climb into an imaginary ZORB™ and kiss the negativity good bye!
“What the hell is a ZORB,™ Eric?”
ZORB™ is the sport of rolling down a hill inside a giant inflatable ball and can be found in New Zealand where, once again, they lead the world in stupid things to do while you’re on a vacation.(1) (Check out their promo video.)
The point is that every day we are bombarded with other people’s feelings, fears, and past experiences. We may be fighting our own feelings, fears and doubts at the same time.
The trick is to find a way to protect yourself, keep your energy up, and even raise your own energy and positiveness so you are radiating to everyone around you.
Before arriving at work (or visiting with people I know to be generally negative), I imagine climbing into one of the ZORBs and being completely safe from everything in my environment that could bring me down. But this virtual ball lets me see and hear everything around me and respond.
According to Don Miguel Ruiz in the The Four Agreements, and others in the self-help arena, what people push out to you and others is simply about themselves and projections of what they are feeling.
So, pick your protection:
- Deflector Shields
- Copper Pyramid
- Rubber (“I’m rubber. You’re glue….”)
- Plate Mail Armor
- +5 Shield and or +5 Ring of Protection ?(I’m SO geeking out…huge D&D reference. Sorry.)
Simple, imaginary walls
So, be prepared tomorrow when you go out into the world. I promise, you’ll catch yourself smiling when someone begins a tirade of complaining and it just bounces away. Plus, your smile will just irritate the crap out of them.
Excuse me, now, while I bounce on down the road in my ZORB!
(1) ZORB is a registered trademark of…well…near as I can find: ZORB, Inc. (?)